A Basic Guide to Meeting Women in Medellin Colombia

Meeting women in Medellin could be easier than you think. They are beautiful but they’re humans too.

The secret is out – Medellin is jam-packed with beautiful women! Most guys who have been lucky enough to visit Medellin will probably rave about how many good-looking women  are in the city. Some guys go to Medellin and end up dating girls way hotter than they would ever be with back home.  Others come and leave unsuccessfully, claiming that Medellin girls are gorgeous but too hard to approach relative to other parts of Central and South America. So what’s the truth?

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Different is Interesting

So you’re an average looking single guy traveling and looking to hook up with a local Paisa girl or two. Let’s face it, your best chances of scoring with local women are in places where you are more of a geographical oddity.  Basically wherever you’re the most different you’re the least average, which in turn increases the level of attention (interest) you will get from the ladies. You know the old adage  “don’t take sand to a beach“? Well let’s frame it differently, if you are just another grain of sand on the beach, you just blend right in and go unnoticed. Get my drift? Go where there is little sand.

NOTE: I DO NOT Support Buying Girls! Personally, paying for girls just isn’t my thing, I don’t support it for many reasons but the option definitely exists in Medellín.

Do you need to know spanish to meet Medellin girls?

Obviously the more spanish you speak, the easier it will be to communicate with the Paisa women but I know guys who can barely construct a proper sentence in Spanish and they still consistently hook up with local girls. I recommend at least learning the basics, since it shows that you respect the people enough to try to communicate in their native tongue. With that being said, I have seen bad Spanish work to the advantage of some guys. For some reason the girls think it’s cute when a foreign guy botches up a cheesy pickup line. I have even met guys who have spent the night with a girl they met and when asked what they talked about they say – nothing really. They still manage to find romance even when everything else is lost in translation.

Approaching Women

In general, women prefer to be approached by men – that’s the way it is all over the world, Medellín’s no different. Sure there have been situations where women have approached me and asked me to take a photo with them – a subtle invite to get to know them, but all other times I do the approaching.

Luckily in Medellín, girls make it blatantly obvious if they find you attractive. From across the room they will lock eyes with you just long enough to make you feel moderately uncomfortable. This is your cue to approach them. They will continue making eye contact to get your attention in hopes that you will grow the huevos (eggs) to walk up to them and say something clever. Regardless of the country or situation, you need to exude confident (not arrogance) when you approach women because they can smell fear from a mile away and it ain’t sexy!

Approach with a smile and start speaking, the rest is easy peasy since Paisas are generally really warm and receptive once you are on speaking terms. Before long they will be calling you affectionate names like mi amor (my love) and mi corozon (my heart).

Where is the best place to meet local girls in Medellín

If you’re lucky enough you may not even have to leave your hostel, thanks to those we’ve dubbed ‘gringo hunters‘. Gringo Hunters are local girls who spend a considerable amount of time at hostel bars and clubs where foreigners are most likely to be found. They usually travel in pairs or small groups and tend to speak enough English to carry a basic conversation. They are the easiest to approach since they actually want to be approached. Unless you lack basic social and conversational skills, these girls are the easiest to meet.

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Social scene at the Tiger Paw Hostel happy hour

Outside The Hostel – Playing the Gringo Card

El Poblado is Medellín’s wealthiest area. What this means is that Poblado is where Medellín’s richest people go to play when the weekend comes around. It also happens to be where some of the city’s most stunning woman go to strut their stuff. Rich beautiful women, perfect right? Maybe, but carefully consider your audience. They have probably vacationed in North America and Europe and may have even lived outside of Colombia at some point in their lives.

What I am saying is that to Poblado girls your gringo-ness is not as much of a novelty as it would be in other areas of Medellín. Don’t get me wrong, by no means are they unattainable, it just takes a bit more work and money. They can easily afford their own drinks but usually the guys tend to pay for everything when they go out (part of the culture). Remember this when you ask a girl out on a date – the guy fronts the bill almost always. Also, don’t be surprised if you ask a girl out and she shows up with a cousin or a friend. Weird yes, but it happens all the time. And yep – you may have to pay for her guest too.

If you aren’t a natural looker or a confident approacher, I recommend trying another neighborhood where you can play your gringo card more effectively. The further away you go from Medellín’s wealthy nucleus (Poblado and Lleras Park) the easier it will be to pickup.

Other areas with bars and clubs where you can meet girls are Barrio Colombia, Envigado, La Strada, Rio Sur, Calle 70, and Centro which all receive less gringo traffic.

Managing Your Relationship – Messaging, Calling and Unreliability

So you managed to get her talking and laughing, but now you probably want to get her phone number so you can arrange a date. Or you can just scribble down her email and add her on Facebook (seems like the way of the future).

Which brings me to another key suggestion – unlock your cell phone, buy a SIM card, and get a local Colombian number – even if you are only going to be there for a week or two. You won’t regret it. If you don’t have a phone, getting in contact and arranging a meeting with the beauty you just met will be almost impossible.

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Phone Frustration

Like many other guys, I have been in the situation where I hit it off really well with a girl, got her number and even gave her a parting kiss, then absolutely nothing became of it. When you text message a Paisa girl, she may get back to you the next second, but at other times it could take her a day, a week and in some extreme cases up to a month to respond. It is very frustrating, but there is absolutely nothing you will do to change this situation.

Don’t expect her to call you

Because calling from a cell phone is so expensive, girls will actually call you and hang up before you pick up, so that you can call them back and pay for the call – I’m dead serious.

Many guys who have been living in Medellin for a while actually set up multiple dates on the same day knowing that most of the girls will flake out. If you are stood up or you have to wait an extra hour or two for your date to show up, don’t take it personally, you aren’t the first or the last. Just the other day I had a Paisa girl say she would meet me at 10pm and she showed up at 12:30am.

Have you had a good or bad experience with meeting women in Medellín? Leave a comment and tell us about it.

***NEW: Still interested, READ PART II of this post written on year later for a different perspective!

For another perspective from an American guy living in Medellin about dating Medellin Girls, check out my boy’s post on the Medellin Buzz.

30 Comments

  1. Hahahaaaaa great stuff, it’s all true!
    It would have been more useful if you would have posted it before my trip though, then I wouldn’t have had to find out these things the hard way;)
    Keep on tripping!
    Pieter

  2. So… where do you get the comic white dust??

  3. As a South American girl, this was really funny to read. I can agree with a few things here tho, like Americans speaking botched english can come off as cute in a funny way. And the cell phone call and hang signal is 100% true.

  4. Haha i really like this guide but i heard that you just get girls really drunk and then take them back to your place when they cant say no? Has that worked for you?

    • Well that’s never been a strategy of mine but I guess it works for some men doesn’t it. So no, it hasn’t worked for me and I don’t support it. I prefer a more respectful/sustainable approach to meeting women. Regardless of the country it seems that most women are attracted to guys who do a few things well, like – treat them with respect, make them feel safe, appreciate them for who they are, and like them for their perfections and imperfections. Not to mention the more basic stuff like looking good, smelling good, dancing well, and making interesting conversation and caring more about how they feel. But that’s an entirely new blog post on it’s own.

  5. My friend show me this and Wow! how long have you been in Medellin? You have us very much figured out

    • Tati – I have been here in Medellin for a while (mas que 6 meses). Y he aprendido que todos no son iguales. :)

      • tal vez usted me puede entender

        • Quien es tu amigo/a? Y porque no estás entendida?

  6. Magnificent site. Lots of useful information here.
    I’m sending it to several pals ans also sharing in delicious.
    And certainly, thank you on your effort!

  7. I just read this post and I found it quite funny ;) I am a Medellín girl and I have met some foreigner friends through some years and they sometimes complain about how hard it is to approach girls here. I personally think that approaching girls here is really easy (my opinion); however, I think foreigners have 2 big problems: 1 They are too shy in most cases and 2 Most of them have a bad reputation among many girls here (I have friends girls who usually think all foreigners are just sex tourists). Many girls (myself included) wont try to talk to a foreigner or flirt as they may be tagged as “gringo hunters” or “easy”. Local guys just go to a girl or even a group of girls and start talking without caring too much if they will be accepted or not. Most of the times they get accepted even if its just for friends lol. Girls here are quite friendly ;)

    • I agree with you about both points. Foreign guys are either way too intimidated by the beautiful girls and some of them are there just for the sex. I never thought about it from the girl’s perspective, but I guess you are right – IF the girl goes out on a date with a foreigner people might think she is just a gringo-hunter. BUT just as all Paisa girls aren’t the same, all gringo (foreign) guys aren’t the same either. There are some good ones and some pretty bad ones. Unfortunately there are some pretty bad ones that pass through Medellin.

      • You are right. Not all people are the same. I personally like meeting foreigners and I have dated some before but I dont try to talk to them first because they start thinking the girl is too easy, or gringo hunter or after the money or whatever.

    • Hi, Your English is exceptional. I’ve been working on my Spanish for a while and haven’t gotten there yet. As a world traveler, I found that it’s best to have someone you know show you around.

      Would you be available?

      All the best,
      Elliot (Eli)

      • Hello Elliot – To be honest I am not sure if I will be here in May, but send me a message once you are here and we will see. Safe travels

        • Hey Mr. Duncan,

          I am in Medellin for another 23 days. I am new and this is my first time here. Do you have any recommendations on where to go. I would like to take a tour of the city from someone who knows versus asking a complete stranger. Please get back at me if you can provide me any assistance. Thank you in advance!

          • Bruce – You said that you want to take a tour of the city. Do you mean you want to make your own tour or you want to take a tour with a good company. I have never personally taken an organized tour of the city but here are a few things that I suggest. Places to visit in and within an our or two of Medellin would be El Pueblito Paisa, Guatapé, Santa Fe de Antioquia. In Medellin you can go to Parque Arvi up to the top of the cable car. If you like Salsa or just want to get out into the real Medellin, go to El Eslabon Prendido in the Centro. It is a little steamy salsa bar where you will find cool Foreigners and Locals. If you are interested in taking a City Tour, you should go into the Tiger Paw Hostel and ask any of the girls at reception which one to take.They are very knowledgable about the tours offered. What I would do is just get a little tourist map and hit the Metro. You can just jump off at the different stops and check out some of the cool parks there.

            One last thing – You are in Medellin at the perfect time. The Feria De Flores (Flower Festival) begins on August 2nd, so there will be tons of events going on in the city. Just google the Feria and you will see the events. This should take up 5 days easily.

  8. go to the many massage place look for a colombians with the green eyes when you start looking for that you will know what i am talking about i was there in Medellin brought a girl from Medellin with me from Panama and this is the way to get the really nice girl with out loosing time dating girls that just want you to buy them thing then they bring you to a little McDonald and they call their boyfriend in the toilet and then suddenly you get in problem with a chico that want you’re thing
    i never ad problem in those country but i try to play my cards

    • Im from the U.S, and I’ve been living here in Medellin for like 3 months and this blog just blew my mind, lol. I agree 100% with Joel, but i gotta say its easier said than done because the reality is that most of us foreigners are shy by nature, its a little hard to break through it, although a few drinks later it might be easier to grow the stones :p

  9. I’ve been to the Philippines and Peru only for short vacations . Colombia is next on my list and I’m considering moving there for 6-12 months (as a extended vacation hoping to meet the right girl for marriage if I’m lucky enough). I’ve been reading up on colombia quite a bit and I must say, this is the best write up I’ve seen so far. Excellent info. Thanks!

  10. I read your article and I found it very interesting since I might be teaching English in Colombia. I know the pay is not high but I’m doing it for the experience and learning the culture. I do have a question: is the term “Gringo Hunter” a bad name? What I’m trying to ask is are gringo hunters only looking for “gringos” to become citizens or are they actually looking for love?

    • Kyle – Sorry for the way overdue response to your comment. I seemed to have missed a bunch of comments on the blog. Firstly I must say that although the pay isn’t high, your experience in the country will more than make up for the financial hit. So Gringo Hunter…I can’t say it is a bad or a good name. I think that people can be categorized by this name in two ways. One way is if all they go for is foreigners because that is truly what they are attracted to and the other ones who think see every foreigner as an ATM. Both types exist. Some girls are just attracted to foreigners. I am attracted to Latinas, so I guess that would make me a Latina Hunter :) But there are other who think that getting a gringo is a way to riches and a better life. I think that anyone with who doesn’t have their head too far in the clouds would be able to tell which ones are genuinely interested and which ones are just out to see what they can get. With that being said there are tons of amazing women who what love. They just want that love with a gringo and not a local Colombian who they are accustomed to seeing everyday. I hope this answered your question mate. Have a blast in Colombia.

      • Thanks for the response. Hopefully I’ll be teaching by next year after I graduate. Same here man, I’m attracted to Latinas hahaha.

    • Well depends on the girl, I’m from Medellín and I agree with Joel, some of us just like gringos.

  11. I am 56 single American. I have been thinking of moving from the US and living abroad. I have lived and worked in Brasil, Singapore and other places. I never considered Columbia but after reading your blog I am very interested in checking out Medellin. I am currently working in South Korea and will be taking a holiday soon. Any suggestions on where to stay for about 2 weeks in Medellin?

  12. Hi Joel- I’m considering taking a buddy to Colombia for some fun and to meet some local ladies.

    I am well-traveled, so I’m not concerned about meeting women, but where do you recommend visiting?

    Is Medellin the best city to Visit?

    I myself, I’m considering finding a long-term Colombians. We’ll see.

    Cheers

    • Tyler – Regardless of if you are interesting in meeting women, Medellin is a great place to visit. The people in general are very friendly and proud of their city. I can’t say if Medellin is the best city for everyone but it is for me. I think that Colombia has so much to offer and each city has its own appeal. I would definitely visit Salento in the coffee region, Cartagena on the Coast, Bucaramanga and San Gil. There are many places that I can suggest but I think that those would be a great start but I don’t know how much time you are working with. Medellin is my favourite city for many reasons. It is modern, it has beautiful people, mountains, perfect weather more or less all year round, rivers, top notch nightlife, countless restaurants, and it is close to many other little towns there you can go to get away from it all. Anywhere you go, your buddy will meet ladies, so that is the least of you problems. ~ Good luck my friend. Enjoy the country.

  13. I really think you are confusing Medellin with Moscow…!!!
    Women do not lock eyes in Colombia, they play the virgin shy card, always!!
    Doesn’t mean you aren’t approachable but they play hard, very hard, to get!

  14. I am puerto rican was born in the us lived there my whole life I love colombian women they are beautiful. And question what are your thoughts on barranquilla or cali heard that the women there are gorgeous and im looking to find the right woman to spend with and I really want to marry a colombian so were are the most beautiful.Don’t mean to sound rude but one with a great body.

    • Nate – Colombian women are very beautiful. I haven’t been to Cali and I do think that there are many beautiful women in Barranquilla. In my opinion, the best looking women are in Medellin but then again, it is hard to find a place in Colombia where the people aren’t beautiful. It all comes down to personal choice I guess.

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